Why there is no blood during deprivation. Should there always be blood and pain when losing virginity?

The hymen did not break

It is probably difficult to find two girls whose hymen structure would be identical. This thin tissue covering the entrance to the vagina in virgins has many differences in shape, density, location and number of holes, etc. All these signs are individual and given to the girl from birth. And often the individual structural features of the hymen complicate the process of removing it during the first sexual intercourse. Moreover, sometimes it is impossible to break the hymen even during the second and third time. Medicine even knows of cases where women gave birth to children while being physiologically virgins, and the hymen was removed precisely during childbirth.

According to the sensations you described, it can be assumed that the hymen rupture occurred during your second sexual intercourse. This may explain the absence of blood the first time and its presence the second time. Most likely, during the first sex, the hymen stretched enough to allow the partner's penis to penetrate the vagina. The tension on the tissue caused pain, but was not strong enough to cause the tissue to rupture and cause bleeding. There are several reasons why this could happen:

Most likely, you have an elastic hymen or a large hole in it.
Your partner's penis may be small enough, or similar in size to the opening in the hymen, that it was able to penetrate the vagina without damaging the hymen tissue. Another reason is the lack of a strong erection during the first sexual intercourse, which is quite natural, because your young man could be very excited about the situation.
With slow and gradual penetration of a partner who is concerned about the well-being of his partner and strives to cause as little pain as possible, even a small hole in the hymen can stretch well.

Psychological mood of the girl

The girl’s mood when engaging in sexual activity also plays an important role in the presence or absence of pain. Some are ready for this physically and psychologically, and then the first sexual experience, as a rule, does not frighten them and goes well. Others, for various reasons, are not yet ready for intimacy, but nevertheless enter into an intimate relationship. So, if a girl loves her partner or has strong warm feelings for him, then she will be more willing to give herself to him.

The fact that how relaxed and excited the girl is is also important. If sexual arousal is sufficient, then her genitals are ready to accept a man. Here, much also depends on the man’s ability to provide preliminary pleasure to the woman immediately before intimacy. To avoid pain, partners must know each other well enough, trust and be able to give mutual pleasure. Well, the environment around should also be appropriate. It would be good if the first sex took place in a place where no one would interfere and everything would be conducive to love.

All the best!

Best regards, Sandrin.

ANSWERED: 02/01/2012

Hello, Diana! The hymen can be very elastic and does not always break during the first sexual intercourse. Cases of hymen rupture in women during childbirth have been described.

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QUESTION FOR CLARIFICATION 06/07/2012 Lena, Kazakhstan

QUESTION FOR CLARIFICATION 12/18/2012 Jazz, Uralsk

Why didn’t I bleed during the first sexual intercourse, even after numerous attempts, because of this, my boyfriend didn’t believe me and we broke up, what should I do? This is fine

ANSWERED: 01/06/2013

Blood may not always be released during the first sexual intercourse. The hymen may not have many blood vessels and if it ruptures there may be very little bleeding. This is just a feature of your body, and a young man might not be so categorical.

Clarification question

ANSWERED: 04/28/2014

Hello Diana! For some girls, the hymen is very elastic and does not always break during the first sexual intercourse. Explain this to your boyfriend, or go together to a consultation with a gynecologist.

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QUESTION FOR CLARIFICATION 04/03/2015 Ira Romanova, Tyumen

Hello, I had sexual intercourse for the first time, but there was no blood, the pain was just a little bit, then I had sexual intercourse several more times, there was no blood either, tell me, am I still a virgin?

QUESTION FOR CLARIFICATION 04/04/2015 Romanova Ira, Tyumen

So I could remain a virgin?

QUESTION FOR CLARIFICATION 01/05/2016 Avazzhan, Samara

I've been married to my husband for half a year, but I can't get pregnant as a virgin.

ANSWERED: 01/26/2016

It is likely that the hymen is preserved. But you can definitely tell at an appointment with a gynecologist.

Clarification question

ANSWERED: 01/28/2016

Hello, Lena! In some girls, the hymen may not rupture during the first sexual intercourse. This probably happened to you on the 3rd time. If the guy doesn’t believe it, let the gynecologist confirm this information. Go to the doctor together.

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QUESTION FOR CLARIFICATION 03/29/2016 Akmal, Moscow

I am a Muslim, during the first sexual relationship with my wife, she was very afraid and was under stress, we had sex for 5 hours and could only do it once, she had not had sex before that time. There was 1 2 drops of blood, there was very little and tipper I have doubts, was she really a virgin or not? How much shelter should there be for the answer, thanks in advance

ANSWERED: 03/29/2016

Hello,! Bleeding when the hymen ruptures may be slight or absent altogether if the hymen is not torn.

Clarification question

ANSWERED: 03/31/2016

Hello, this happens when the hymen has good elasticity. Unfortunately, the doctor cannot influence your boyfriend’s way of thinking if he is not satisfied with this answer.

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ANSWERED: 04/01/2016 Aizikovich Boris Leonidovich Moscow

3.5 manager pediatric department

Hello, when the hymen ruptures, bleeding does not occur normally since the vascular growth of the hymen is insignificant. As a result, there can be anything from just a pink spot when blotting to a maximum level of 3 - 5 ml of blood. If you don’t believe in your wife’s purity now, then answer the question: will you trust later? How honest are you with a woman that you don’t believe her? Is she your first?

Clarification question

ANSWERED: 04/01/2016 Aizikovich Boris Leonidovich Moscow

3.5 manager pediatric department

Hello Lena! Firstly, not everyone experiences the loss of the hymen from the first sexual intercourse for various reasons, the pressure of the man and your patience and the peculiarities of the blood supply to the hymen and its elasticity play a role here. And the fact that your young man does not trust is bad and a question arises, and more than one. The main one is, do you need a man who initially, instead of proposing, puts you into bed and “puffs out his cheeks” why there is no blood, maybe you are not a virgin. Think about it, do you need him like this? This is not jealousy or mistrust, but rather cynicism. I’m so white and fluffy and you’re not a virgin!

Clarification question

ANSWERED: 04/02/2016

Hello! The hymen comes in different structures. In some cases, it remains intact even after repeated sexual intercourse. In this case, the gynecologist can conclude that you are a virgin.

Clarification question

ANSWERED: 04/02/2016

I cannot say for sure, but you may still have signs of virginity. You can easily check this if you undergo a gynecological examination and ask the doctor about the condition of the hymen.

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QUESTION FOR CLARIFICATION 06/15/2016 Elena, Kuibyshev

Many women who are about to have their “first time” worry about possible bleeding after losing their virginity. Will there be a lot of blood? Where will the blood go? How painful will it be? How long will bleeding after losing virginity last? Below are answers to the questions that concern young women most often.

Tissue trauma

The appearance of bleeding and pain in the second sexual intercourse can also be explained by tissue trauma if you had repeated sex soon after the first. During defloration, ruptures occur in the network of blood vessels located in the hymen. Depending on the elasticity and thickness of the hymen, these tears can be quite deep, with heavy bleeding lasting several days, or superficial, with minor bleeding (in 30% of cases there is no blood at all). As with any injury with tissue damage, time is needed for wounds to heal. This usually takes about 7-10 days, after which whitish scar tissue forms at the site of the tears. The recovery period after defloration involves the exclusion of sexual intercourse, as well as careful adherence to personal hygiene rules in order not to introduce infection into injured tissues. If you haven't had enough time after losing your virginity, blood and pain are a natural occurrence.

At this point, you need complete sexual rest so that the tissue in your intimate area can heal completely. A visit to a gynecologist will also not hurt. The specialist will conduct an examination and assess the degree of trauma to the tissues of the genital organs, and will give you the necessary recommendations for wound healing. You can also discuss future contraceptive methods with him. As for condoms with ribs, bumps, etc., the very beginning of sexual life is not the time for experimentation. You will still have the opportunity to diversify your sensations when you return to normal.

Best regards, Ksenia

Blood during sex is a fairly common occurrence that worries not only a girl or woman, but also her partner. Often this fact can negatively affect sex life and cause disorders in sexual life. Let's consider the factors behind the appearance of blood before and during sexual intercourse, why this is dangerous and whether this phenomenon can be prevented.

How long does it take to bleed after losing your virginity?

The beginning of sexual activity is an important step for every person, since it is at this moment that a girl becomes a woman and a guy becomes a man.

Quite often it happens that blood after defloration causes very strong feelings in both partners, because they have just become even closer to each other, sharing the sensations of first intimacy.

There are rare cases when you should consult a doctor, but most often it is a natural process.

Pathologies

Answering the question of how long does blood flow after deflowering, it can be noted that if the girl is in full health, blood should not be released for more than a day. And it should not be enough. If the bleeding does not stop, then you should visit a doctor.

Perhaps the pelvic organs are engulfed by an inflammatory process. The same applies to pain. If there is no infection, the pain will be barely noticeable and will stop quite quickly on its own. When all these symptoms are aggravated by an increase in temperature, then a doctor is needed urgently.

Now let us dwell in more detail on the pain that is observed not only during the first sexual intercourse, but even after a fairly long period of time.

We are talking about the structure of the pubic bone. It should be in the form of a roll, approximately as thick as your thumb. There are women in whom this bone is shaped like a saber-shaped bar, and its width is about 4 cm.

When a man inserts the penis into the vagina, he puts pressure on the urethra and presses it like a sharp point on a bone. As a result, pain appears. A girl may be scared when she experiences it for the first time, and then again and again.

The gynecologist will not find any diseases. All that remains is to choose a position so that the pain stops bothering you. Be sure to tell your partner about your problem. You can’t endure it alone, it will only increase the tension. Together you can experiment, ultimately enjoying a mutually enjoyable process.

Contraception

As we already mentioned, the best solution in this case is condoms. If it so happens that they are not nearby, then the risk of pregnancy is very high. As soon as there is a delay, you should contact a gynecologist.

Unfortunately, few people decide to carry a child after the first sexual intercourse, and it all ends in abortion. And this is very traumatic both morally and physically at such a young age and will leave an imprint for life. Therefore, defloration must occur with the use of a condom.

Personal hygiene

Separately, it is worth touching on the issue of personal hygiene. Before the first sexual intercourse, as well as after it, a woman should wash herself so as not to introduce bacteria that live on the labia and perineal area into the vagina. As we have already said, blood after defloration is a wound surface, and it can become infected quite easily.

Recommendations

If you are planning your first sexual intercourse in advance, then visit a gynecologist and discuss with him all the issues that concern you. The doctor will check to see if you have any hidden inflammations.

After the first act, it is advisable to refrain from contact for a couple of days until the wound due to the rupture of the hymen heals. You can lubricate it with pure glycerin after morning and evening hygiene procedures. At first you will feel a tingling sensation. As soon as the wound heals, the discomfort during treatment will disappear. This is a kind of indicator that you can practice sex again.

If there is a lack of natural lubrication, you can use a lubricant, which is sold at the pharmacy in the same place as condoms. This happens if the genitals have not yet fully matured. Over time the problem will disappear.

Subsequent sexual intercourse may cause some pain because the vagina gradually becomes accustomed to pressure and friction that was not previously experienced. There is no need to be scared, defloration with blood and pain is already over, you just need to be patient for a while and everything will be completely fine.

To reduce pain, the girl should prefer a position on her back, and her partner on top. You should place a pillow under your buttocks to raise your pelvis. The girl should bend her legs and press them towards her, while spreading them as far apart as possible.

It is necessary to relax so that the muscles of the perineum do not interfere with the movements of the penis. A man should be as aroused as possible, since the hardness of the penis plays an important role.

Not every girl experiences an orgasm during the first sexual intercourse, which cannot be said about a man. But we still need to create all conditions with care for each other:

Both partners should be ready for sex, without pressure from the man;
the bed should be clean and comfortable, conducive to intimacy;
no one should be in the next room;
It’s better to dim the lights and close the curtains to achieve a romantic atmosphere;
if you are too worried about the blood during defloration, cover the bed with a waterproof disposable diaper;
contraception is the main participant in the first and subsequent sexual intercourse of a young couple who does not plan to become parents.

Events that happen for the first time are always frightening, because we still have no experience and we don’t know how to behave. This is the case with the first sexual intercourse. But everyone started at some point, despite the anxiety.

You have to reproduce somehow! In the article we have covered the main information regarding defloration.

We hope it will help you survive your very first intimacy with minimal trauma, both physical and psychological.

Why does blood appear during sexual intercourse?

The causes of blood during sex are quite varied and are not always related to menstruation. It is a mistaken belief that blood during sex can only occur if the integrity of the hymen is lost. Sometimes it indicates the development of dangerous diseases.

The most common causes of blood are:

As already mentioned, this is the girl’s first sexual contact in her life. In this case, the hymen, rich in blood vessels, is torn. Bleeding may not appear - it all depends on the anatomical features of the genitals and the experience of the partner. It also does not occur if the hymen has been destroyed as a result of injury or masturbation.
Damage to the vagina during sexual intercourse if it is too harsh and intense. Sometimes, if you have too much sex, this organ and even the cervix can be damaged.
Infectious pathologies (most often endometritis, cervicitis, vaginitis).
Endometriosis is the formation of nodes and atypical cells in the endometrium of the uterus.
Taking certain hormonal medications (and most often incorrectly). In this case, bleeding may occur before and during contact.
Polyps are growths with a stalk in the vagina, sometimes in the cervical canal. Occurs as a result of HPV. Causes bleeding before and during contact. Papillomas threaten malignant degeneration.
Erosion can also cause blood to drain from the genital tract.
Some tumor changes in the uterus or vagina.
The use of aspirin can also cause bleeding not only during contact, but also before it. The fact is that acetylsalicylic acid changes the blood clotting process. In addition, this drug thins the inner wall of the vagina, which further increases the risk of bleeding.

Where does blood come from?

This is a difficult question, because there are quite a lot of points and without a medical examination it is impossible to understand what exactly happened. The main options: entry into the vagina, from inside it, from the cervix or the uterus itself. And the reasons for this may be different. The most severe bleeding that requires immediate visit to the doctor comes from a wound on the vaginal septum. But a very small number of women have such a septum (about one in 3-80 thousand, the exact frequency has not been established).

The most common option is droplets of blood from tiny wounds at the entrance to the vagina, which you are not even aware of. The cervix may also be to blame, which, due to excitement, can get rid of some of the dead cells (especially if this happens a day or two before menstruation).

What you need to know about diseases of the female genital organs

Sometimes women may experience bleeding after sex that is not related to their period. This is very frightening for the fair sex. In any case, it is necessary to consult a doctor, since if bloody discharge occurs, this may indicate a serious illness.

One of the most dangerous diseases for women is cervical cancer. Often in the early stages this process may not manifest itself in any way. Often, a woman may not pay attention to the fact that she has bleeding before, during or after sex and may not know why it appears. A doctor can determine the disease only after a thorough examination.

Bleeding not associated with menstruation can also occur during a terminated pregnancy. Sometimes spontaneous abortion is characterized by mild pain, but this does not always happen.

And if there is bloody discharge from the genital tract after menstruation, and in the last cycle there was a possibility of pregnancy, one should not reject the fact that it may be interrupted.

In many cases, vaginal bleeding may be due to endometriosis. With this disease, discharge may occur before menstruation. Endometriosis is very dangerous, as it can affect the ovaries, muscle tissue of the uterus, bladder, and intestines. The danger of the disease also lies in the fact that in many cases doctors cannot determine exactly why it appears. The course of the pathology is progressive.

Sometimes bleeding occurs when taking hormonal medications. Their excessive use leads to hormonal imbalance, which threatens the appearance of various diseases of the female genital organs of varying degrees of malignancy. They are very difficult to treat. This is why you should consult a doctor before taking hormonal medications.

Women need to remember that the appearance of blood during sex may be associated with the pathological activity of fungal flora. Indeed, with many such pathologies, women bleed unrelated to menstruation.

In rare cases, contributing factors to bleeding appear in cervical dysplasia. Such diseases are determined only after a thorough analysis of the excreted material.

How to ease the pain of losing your virginity

There are ways to ease the pain you may feel during first intimacy. The most important point is foreplay. The longer foreplay lasts, the better the vagina is lubricated, which will facilitate penetration, which will be less painful. Foreplay will also help you get used to your partner's body and touch.

Relaxing can also help reduce pain. On the one hand, the advice may seem illogical: how can you relax if all your attention is focused on what is happening now?! Think about it: when you're afraid of what's going to happen, your body tenses up, which means penetration is harder. The more relaxed you are, the better. Try it, but if you get scared, it’s better to stop and do everything next time.

Author of the article

: Margarita Degtyareva, Moscow Medicine©
Disclaimer
: The information presented in this article about bleeding after loss of virginity is intended for informational purposes only. However, it cannot be a substitute for consultation with a professional physician.

What is uterine bleeding

This is a condition in which blood flows profusely from the female genital organs. This often happens due to hormonal imbalance. This often happens after sex. That's why women need to be especially careful when these symptoms appear:

weakness;
paleness of the skin;
dizziness, sometimes headache;
lowering blood pressure;
a woman cannot do normal activities because she is bleeding profusely;
blood clots appear.

Sometimes women bleed due to stress, climate change, and professional factors. In these cases, to eliminate them, it is desirable to eliminate the influence of harmful factors. However, there are more serious reasons why uterine bleeding develops:

miscarriage;
ectopic pregnancy;
tumors of the ovaries or uterus;
inflammatory pathologies.

In all these cases, emergency assistance is needed.

How to prevent bleeding?

First, it is important to use lubricant. If you have sex several times a day or like to do everything for a long time, but don’t remember about lubrication, blood can be an unpleasant surprise. And yes, there are lubricants that are compatible with condoms!

Secondly, a lot depends on age. As you approach menopause, estrogen levels drop and it is easier to develop sores inside the vagina.

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Thirdly, if the previous sex was a long time ago, there is no need to rush anywhere. Does he have poor self-control? Change your positions. Better yet, discuss everything before sex begins. And don't forget about lubrication!

Why is internal bleeding dangerous?

It is not always accompanied by genital discharge. It is always accompanied by sharp, cramping pain. Women quickly develop signs of anemia. Symptoms of rapidly increasing anemia are:

fainting;
sharply increasing dizziness;
increasing weakness;
heartbeat;
weak pulse;
profuse sweat.

Note that in all these cases, blood does not always come from the female genital organs. Its danger is that the body can lose a large amount of it. This causes disruptions in the functioning of the heart, lungs, and brain. Blood can compress vital organs, impairing their function. Gangrene of the extremities may develop.

In especially severe cases, death is possible. This is due to bleeding of the body and a sharp disruption of the cardiovascular system.

Some tips

It is worth noting that the choice of position has little effect on the conduct of the first intercourse, and no one will give exact recommendations on this matter - everyone chooses what is best for him. The most common option is the missionary position, in which the guy is on top of the girl. That is, in general, an exact answer to the question of which pose is best to choose for the first time.

There is no need to feed yourself empty hopes that in some position there is less pain or bleeding less, this is true. It depends on the characteristics of the organism, and not on the location of the body.

Young girls are often intimidated with scary stories about how their first sexual experience only brings suffering. Some argue the opposite. And such phenomena as the presence of pain and the absence of blood, or the presence of blood and the absence of pain - none of this means that defloration has not occurred, this is simply a feature of the genital organs of an individual girl.

You need to follow some tips so that the first time is remembered as something positive: you need to do it only if the girl is excited enough and penetration does not cause problems because of it. If a girl’s lubricant is not enough, she can use any artificial one sold in a pharmacy.

As for blood and its quantity, this question also falls on the girl’s physiology. For example, bleeding may continue even after this for several days.

Blood flows precisely when the hymen ruptures and after that, as a consequence of disruption of the genital organs. Pain and blood are quite normal for first intercourse, as is the absence of one of the variables. If a girl has any doubts, she can turn to a specialist.

The need to consult a doctor

Sometimes a phenomenon such as an abnormal structure of the pubic bone causes acute pain during the first sexual intercourse. The norm is a roller shape, as thick as a thumb. It is this structure that does not pose any threat during the first sexual intercourse or during childbirth. By abnormal is meant a shape such as a saber-shaped bar, the width of which is 3 or 4 times greater than normal. Therefore, pain may occur that has nothing to do with whether it is the first sexual intercourse or the tenth.

During penetration, the penis presses the urethra against the protruding part of the pubic bone, which causes acute pain. Because of this, a woman reinforces the belief that her first intimate relationship is not the most pleasant experience. Medicine is powerless in this case, so it is worth discussing convenience with your partner, because both parties to the relationship should be comfortable. There is no need to endure pain; it is advisable to be honest with yourself and your chosen one.

During the first experience, it is better for a woman to be as relaxed as possible in order to avoid unnecessary discomfort for both herself and the man. It’s better to think about the positive, that sexual intercourse is a pleasant process, and also that all this is happening with a person you trust. In this case, everything will go smoothly and the memories will be positive.

Treatment of bleeding after sexual intercourse

The goal of treatment for this condition is to immediately stop the bleeding. If blood appears after the first sexual intercourse, then no specific treatment is required. The bleeding stops quickly. It is important to ensure peace and carefully observe the rules of hygiene.

In case of uterine dysfunction, it is necessary to prevent recurrent bleeding. This can be achieved by administering hormonal drugs. Curettage of the uterus is resorted to only in extreme cases, if treatment by other means fails to stop the bleeding.

In other cases, traditional treatment consists of taking drugs that increase blood clotting and optimize the balance of hormones. When choosing a medicine, the following factors are taken into account:

underlying pathology;
age;
features of menstruation;
the amount of blood that is released during the cycle;
presence of sexual activity and its regularity;
state of the body;
the presence of allergic pathologies.

Among folk remedies, decoctions of medicinal herbs are used for oral administration or douching. The most effective are barberry, viburnum, and boron uterus. They should be used only for medical reasons.

So, blood during sex is not always a safe symptom. If this happens frequently, you should consult a doctor.

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The most common causes of blood are:

As already mentioned, this is the girl’s first sexual contact in her life. In this case, the hymen, rich in blood vessels, is torn. Bleeding may not appear - it all depends on the anatomical features of the genitals and the experience of the partner. It also does not occur if the hymen has been destroyed as a result of injury or masturbation.
Damage to the vagina during sexual intercourse if it is too harsh and intense. Sometimes, if you have too much sex, this organ and even the cervix can be damaged.
Infectious pathologies (most often endometritis, cervicitis, vaginitis).
Endometriosis is the formation of nodes and atypical cells in the endometrium of the uterus.
Taking certain hormonal medications (and most often incorrectly). In this case, bleeding may occur before and during contact.
Polyps are growths with a stalk in the vagina, sometimes in the cervical canal. Occurs as a result of HPV. Causes bleeding before and during contact. Papillomas threaten malignant degeneration.
Erosion can also cause blood to drain from the genital tract.
Some tumor changes in the uterus or vagina.
The use of aspirin can also cause bleeding not only during contact, but also before it. The fact is that acetylsalicylic acid changes the blood clotting process. In addition, this drug thins the inner wall of the vagina, which further increases the risk of bleeding.

Why there was no blood the first time: reasons, norm and deviations, medical opinions

The first sexual intercourse is a very important event for every woman. Accordingly, she is worried about a lot of questions about how this will happen, who will become her first man, and whether she will experience pain.

It is generally accepted that rupture of the hymen is accompanied by bleeding. But many girls claim that this did not happen in their case. This becomes a cause for concern.

So why was there no blood the first time? Is this normal or should I consult a doctor?

Loss of virginity from the point of view of the physiological process

It is officially permitted to have sexual intercourse at the age of 18. However, many girls lose their virginity at the age of 15. There are cases when this happens later or, conversely, earlier. Before we talk about why there was no blood the first time, it’s worth saying a few words about the physiological characteristics of the female body.

The hymen is formed in the vagina. In other words, it is the mucous membrane that narrows the opening to the vagina. During the first sexual intercourse, the penis penetrates the area. It is he who creates pressure in the vagina, under the influence of which the hymen is destroyed. Because of this, after sexual intercourse, a girl may find mucus residue or blood stains on her bed linen.

In 80% of cases, the symptoms of loss of virginity are the same. Girls notice a number of signs after intercourse:

mild pain in the perineal area;
burning, tingling or itching sensation;
the appearance of a small amount of blood;
a feeling of slight discomfort when the girl is in a sitting position.

There is also a visual sign that a sexual partner can notice - after sex, the labia will turn slightly red. All this is absolutely normal. Usually the pain goes away within a day. But many girls are worried about why they didn’t bleed the first time. Is this normal? It is worth highlighting several reasons why this could happen.

Reason #1: Premature use of tampons

Commercials actively encourage girls to use tampons. The manufacturer of this hygiene product claims that it is convenient, invisible under clothes, and most importantly, safe, even an innocent girl can use it.

Gynecologists assure that this is not entirely true. Virgins can only afford to use sophisticated tampons, which are slightly smaller than regular ones. In addition, when using them, it is not recommended to engage in sports or gymnastics. Tampons should also be changed regularly.

Otherwise, increased pressure may form in the vaginal area, due to which the hymen will begin to break down.

If a girl is concerned about why there was no blood the first time, then she should remember whether she experienced any pain or discomfort while using tampons.

In approximately 10-15% of cases, the absence of blood during the first sexual intercourse is associated with the individual physiological characteristics of the girl. The hymen may be located far from blood vessels. Because of this, there may also be no discharge.

Another physiological feature is the elasticity of the mucous membrane. Under pressure, it will constantly stretch, but not break.

A girl can continue to be sexually active, but she will remain a virgin. Moreover, the elastic hymen can last quite a long time. In some cases, it is destroyed only during childbirth.

Surprisingly, many women do not have this mucous membrane at all from birth.

Reason No. 3: physiological characteristics of a man

When a woman begins to think about why there was no blood the first time, she begins to look for the reason in herself. She believes that her health is to blame.

Many women are starting to visit hospitals for examinations. Although in fact the reason may be in the sexual partner.

It is worth remembering that some men have a smaller than normal penis size.

In this case, during sexual intercourse there is insufficient pressure on the hymen, only a small tear is formed, or it remains completely unaffected. In both cases, there may be no blood.

Reason #4: childhood trauma

Another reason why there was no blood after the first time is childhood trauma. Of course, girls, first of all, must be careful; they need to take care of their health from early childhood.

But, unfortunately, many young people prefer an active and not very safe lifestyle. They ride a bike, do gymnastics and other sports. Accordingly, they may accidentally injure the hymen and then forget about this event.

And already as adults, girls can discover the absence of pain and blood after the first sex.

Reason No. 5: previous gynecological surgeries

Some girls develop pathologies in the genital area, which can only be eliminated through surgery. During gynecological surgery to remove them, the hymen may also be damaged.

Reason No. 6: complete trust between partners

If a woman is concerned about why she doesn’t bleed for the first time, this may indicate that she has chosen the right sexual partner. She is as comfortable as possible with him.

Experienced gynecologists have come to a consensus that the more a girl tenses during sex for the first time, the more pain she experiences. That is why, due to damage to the capillaries, blood is released more abundantly.

On the contrary, a relaxed aroused state, the presence of natural lubrication and complete surrender to the partner reduce the risk of pain and blood.

Conclusion

Why was there no blood the first time? This question worries many women. It may be due to various reasons.

To a greater extent, the girl is worried that her partner will reject her, thinking that he is not the first man for her, which, unfortunately, happens often.

In this case, it is worth telling him about the physiological characteristics of the female body or explaining the reason why there might be no blood during the first sexual intercourse.

What you need to know about diseases of the female genital organs

Bleeding not associated with menstruation can also occur during a terminated pregnancy. Sometimes spontaneous abortion is characterized by mild pain, but this does not always happen.

And if there is bloody discharge from the genital tract after menstruation, and in the last cycle there was a possibility of pregnancy, one should not reject the fact that it may be interrupted.

In rare cases, contributing factors to bleeding appear in cervical dysplasia. Such diseases are determined only after a thorough analysis of the excreted material.

Why is this happening

The thought that the first sexual intercourse is always unsuccessful and that this is a very unpleasant process must be driven away. It can be noted that many people have this attitude, but there are exceptions to any rule: it is not necessary that blood will bleed after defloration. There are cases when bleeding does not occur at all - and this is not some kind of defect, it is simply an individual predisposition. It’s worth figuring out why loss of virginity hurts and bleeds.

Sometimes there are cases when the loss of virginity goes away gradually - after the first couple of times, when the virgin film only breaks. In this case, bleeding may occur every time, or it may not occur at all. Painful sensations mainly depend on the confidence in the partner and the mood of the girl - the more confidence and desire to spend her first time with this person, the less unpleasant the sensations will be.

Thus, if a girl is initially determined that it will be very painful and there will be blood after the first sexual intercourse, then so be it - the mood can provoke contraction of the vaginal muscles, causing discomfort from intercourse to both partners. That is, it all depends on the mood - bleeding most often occurs when the girl is not mentally ready for sexual intercourse.

What is uterine bleeding

weakness;
paleness of the skin;
dizziness, sometimes headache;
lowering blood pressure;
a woman cannot do normal activities because she is bleeding profusely;
blood clots appear.

miscarriage;
ectopic pregnancy;
tumors of the ovaries or uterus;
inflammatory pathologies.

In all these cases, emergency assistance is needed.

Feel

The first intercourse is a purely individual experience. Someone gets pleasure, someone still endures for the sake of future pleasure. It also happens that a woman expects pain and discharge, but everything happens completely differently. Most likely, the elasticity of the hymen and the size of the penis “took care” of this.

Some couples do not immediately succumb to passion, but choose a calmer pace of sexual intercourse, in which the hymen breaks gradually. At the first contact it breaks, and the final rupture occurs after the second or third time. In this case, blood may not appear during defloration, or, on the contrary, it will be observed a little at each intercourse until the hymen is completely torn.

Painful sensations during the first contact largely depend on the girl’s psychological mood. If she does not trust her partner or is too worried about possible pain, then the pain will be more noticeable. It is important to trust the chosen man as much as possible and relax, otherwise the vaginal muscles begin to involuntarily contract, making it difficult for the penis to move.

Judging by the reviews of girls, the first sexual intercourse rarely brings pleasant sensations leading to orgasm. At best, you will not feel anything, and at worst, you will experience defloration with blood and pain. Therefore, there is never a need to rush into sex. It shouldn't be a fashion statement with the first guy you come across. You must love the person at that moment and want to share such an important step with him.

When choosing a pose, you need to focus on your feelings. For some, the most comfortable position will be lying on its side, when the partner is pressed from behind, while others prefer the position if the partner is on top. Or a girl can climb on top of a man if she feels more comfortable that way. There are many variations, so the choice is yours.

Why is internal bleeding dangerous?

It is not always accompanied by genital discharge. It is always accompanied by sharp, cramping pain. Women quickly develop signs of anemia. Symptoms of rapidly increasing anemia are:

fainting;
sharply increasing dizziness;
increasing weakness;
heartbeat;
weak pulse;
profuse sweat.

In especially severe cases, death is possible. This is due to bleeding of the body and a sharp disruption of the cardiovascular system.

Treatment of bleeding after sexual intercourse

underlying pathology;
age;
features of menstruation;
the amount of blood that is released during the cycle;
presence of sexual activity and its regularity;
state of the body;
the presence of allergic pathologies.

So, blood during sex is not always a safe symptom. If this happens frequently, you should consult a doctor.

Olesya Ematova

Good afternoon. This question worries me very much. I bleed during intercourse. Quite abundantly, bright red. This has been going on for six months already, always only 6 days before the start of menstruation, on the remaining days of the cycle there are no problems. Actually, the blood itself is very similar to the beginning of menstruation, only the next day there is nothing or a small smear that goes away in the evening, and the period eventually comes on time. No pain. I am 32 years old, I have been sexually active since I was 18 years old, I have had a constant sexual partner for 7 years, my periods started at the age of 13, the cycle is 28 days, duration is 7 days, regular, of medium abundance. At 27 years old, I had a cleanse at 10 weeks due to a frozen pregnancy (frozen at 6 weeks), there were no complications. At the age of 28, cauterization of erosion with surgitron. At the age of 29, the first and only birth (natural, without pain relief, complications, on time). Result of extended colposcopy: the cervix was treated with a 5% acetic acid solution. OSE color is pale pink, the surface is rough. Ectopia is not determined. The unfinished transformation zone is vast. The boundaries between OSE and CE are defined throughout. The lateral glands are determined, the prostate glands are determined, the rim of the glands is normal. Aceto-white epithelium is determined in the transformation zone. The boundaries are clear, appear slowly, and do not last long. The vascular network (green filter) is not visualized. Atypical vessels are not visualized. The neck was treated with Lugol's solution: the coloring is not uniform, mottling. Colposcopic lesion degree 1, active transformation zone. There are no indications for a biopsy. A drawing for colposcopy, tests for hormones, infections, smears and cytology are included. I would be very grateful for your help: a presumptive diagnosis, what other tests need to be taken and is it necessary, is it possible to plan a pregnancy at this stage? — Results of all tests — I’ll add that according to the results of the ultrasound of the uterus and ovaries, no pathology was revealed, the hormones testosterone, progesterone, d-dimer, TSH, DHEA-so4, Prolactin, PROthrombin according to quick and INR are within normal limits. Analysis for latent infections (herpes simplex virus, cytomegalovirus, chlamydia trachomatis, ureaplasma urealyticum, mycoplasma genitalium, mycoplasma hominis, HPV types 16 and 18 - not detected). Sorry for the long question.

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To identify the cause of bloody discharge from the genital tract, I recommend repeating an ultrasound examination of the pelvic organs before and after menstruation; when performing colposcopy, a description of the condition of the vagina is necessary. It is advisable to expand the range of types, in addition to HPV 16 and HPV 18, HPV 31, HPV 33, HPV 35, HPV 39, HPV 45, HPV 51, HPV 52, HPV 56, HPV 58, HPV 59 and HPV68 should also be excluded. At the preparation stage, you should identify the cause of a missed abortion in the anamnesis, and therefore I recommend undergoing a comprehensive examination Determination of the hormonal profile - FSH (follicle-stimulating hormone), LH (luteinizing hormone), Prolactin, Estradiol, 17-OH-progesterone, Androstenedione, Androstenediol glucuronide, DHEA sulfate (dehydroepiandrosterone sulfate), total testosterone, free testosterone, dihydrotestosterone, SHBG (sex hormone binding globulin) Determination of thyroid hormones - TSH (thyroid-stimulating hormone), T4 (thyroxine), T3 (triiodothyronine), Anti- TG (antibodies to thyroglobulin), Anti-TPO (antibodies to microsomal thyroid peroxidase), Thyroglobulin Study of vaginal biocenosis and culture of the flora of genital discharge with determination of sensitivity to the main range of antibiotics and bacteriophages Sexually transmitted infections (chlamydia, mycoplasmosis, ureaplasmosis , trichomoniasis, gonorrhea, herpes, HPV, etc.) Hemostasis indicators Fibrinogen, Prothrombin, Thrombin time, APTT, Antithrombin III, Lupus, D-dimer, Protein-C Study of the TORCH complex Determination of the genetic risk of blood coagulation disorders (FGB, F2 , F5, SERPINE1, ITGA2, ITGB3) Detection of antiphospholipid syndrome - APS- (determination of IgM and IgG class antibodies to phospholipids: cardiolipin, phosphatidylserine, phosphatidylinositol, phosphatidylic acid). Determination of genetic defect of folate cycle enzymes (MTHFR, MTR, MTRR) Genotyping of a married couple, HLA class II (DRB1, DQA1, DQB1 loci)

Consultation with a gynecologist on the topic “Blood during sexual intercourse” is given for informational purposes only. Based on the results of the consultation received, please consult a doctor, including to identify possible contraindications.

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Professor of the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology No. 1 of the First Moscow State Medical University named after. I. M. Sechenova, Doctor of Medical Sciences, doctor of the highest qualification category.

Sphere of professional interests: diseases of the cervix; sexually transmitted infections; uterine fibroids; endometriosis; adenomyosis; endometrial hyperplasia; prediction and prevention of uterine cancer; infertility; preparation for pregnancy; early miscarriages; Ultrasound; ECO.

The first sexual intercourse is important for both sexes, therefore it is necessary to properly prepare for such an important act: after all, it is difficult both physically and psychologically; because it is characterized by a certain pain, and after the first sexual intercourse there is blood.

Scientists involved in this area of human life give many comments, and they all agree that it is necessary to be prepared in every sense for the loss of virginity. In physical terms, this means that it is better to start sexual activity after 18, because this is the age when the body is fully formed.

When is the best time to start having sex?

The issue is very controversial, in addition to what doctors and scientists advise, but rarely does anyone listen to the words of experts, and even more so at a young age. The girl must choose the time of her first intimate intimacy herself, be it her fully formed desire or the development of a love relationship, so everything is in order even if the first sexual intercourse occurs early.

As already mentioned, the right time is when the girl is already ready for this physically and mentally, and the average age for this is eighteen years old, although it may be a little earlier or later. It’s not for nothing that this period is called “coming of age.”

The law in our country states that a girl is allowed to have sexual relations after turning 18, under one condition: if the partner is over 18 years old.

It is better to start sexual relations at the age of 18

First of all, the presence of sexual desire is important, and this also manifests itself differently in different sexes. In girls, arousal occurs in such a way that the genitals become wet, as a result of which a special lubricant is secreted with the help of special glands. It is this moisture that helps sexual intercourse to occur smoothly and gently, since insertion of the penis no longer becomes an impossible task, since it is at this time that the girl may experience a certain amount of unpleasant sensations. Because there is still a hymen in the vagina, damage to which leads to bleeding after the first sexual intercourse.

After some time of contact, an orgasm occurs, the onset of which is indicated by the release of sperm in the guy. This is the liquid with which fertilization occurs, so you should be very concerned about purchasing contraceptives. And even if after the first experience there was no bleeding, this does not mean that the girl is still innocent.

The importance of defloration

The loss of innocence in the fairer sex should happen at an age when the girl is fully formed, that is, physically ready for intimacy and can make a thoughtful and informed decision on such an important step. That is, the most suitable age for starting sexual activity is precisely 18 years old. This fact has been confirmed by experts in the field of sexology in many countries, although many nations have their own opinion on this matter.

A reasonable question is asked: why is defloration important for virgins? The first experience is remembered for life, everyone knows this: it even determines the girl’s attitude towards the opposite sex in the future. And often the life moments in which the loss of innocence occurs differ for both girls and boys. Some choose a completely experienced man as their first man, while others prefer to start with an equally innocent one.

The first intimacy greatly changes a girl psychologically - she becomes a real woman. For this reason, a guy's behavior during the first sexual intercourse is important. For the first time, a girl may experience uncertainty, fear, embarrassment and fear of pain.

It's no secret that during the first intimate intimacy the virgin membrane ruptures, which certainly leads to the onset of painful sensations. In any case, after the first sexual intercourse there is blood - this is the most obvious indicator of a girl’s innocence. But the blood may not flow, that is, the fact that there is no blood also does not mean that the girl was no longer innocent at the moment of intercourse. This depends on the individual characteristics of the body, so the first experience can lead to various changes in the body of a young girl.

How long does it take to bleed after deprivation?

The beginning of sexual activity is an important step for every person, since it is at this moment that a girl becomes a woman and a guy becomes a man.

Quite often it happens that blood after defloration causes very strong feelings in both partners, because they have just become even closer to each other, sharing the sensations of first intimacy.

There are rare cases when you should consult a doctor, but most often it is a natural process.

Virginity

The opinion of psychologists is clear: the first lovemaking must take place with mutual consent and trust, in the most relaxed romantic atmosphere. Thanks to this, pleasant memories will remain in the memory, even if the guy and girl subsequently separate without being united in marriage.

As for physiology, gynecologists do not advise having sexual intercourse until the age of 17-18, since the body hormonally adjusts to a completely different wavelength.

It is absolutely necessary to protect sex using a barrier method of contraception, which protects against pregnancy and infections transmitted through sexual intercourse. This is especially important for girls, because defloration with blood means the presence of a small injury into which bacteria can easily penetrate if measures are not taken.

Just after this age, the female body is ready in every sense for a conscious intimate life. And yet, it’s better not to rush into sex, because intimacy, although it is an integral part of a relationship, but spiritual harmony between two people is much more important.

Girls are always worried about how long it takes to bleed after losing their virginity? Of course, it is very important to be prepared for any situation in order to take action if necessary.

Everyone begins sexual activity in different ways and under very different circumstances. Someone is specially preparing, looking for information on this matter. Sometimes everything happens spontaneously. In a couple, one of the partners may be experienced, while for the other it will be the first time. Or both partners are preparing to cross the invisible barrier separating carefree youth and adulthood.

The onset of sexual activity is regulated by law. And each country has its own rules. There is quite shocking information about the start time of such an intimate process. For example, in Yemen contact with 9 year old children is allowed.

This is very early for our mentality, because at this age a person is still just a child, who has not even developed sexual characteristics and does not have menstruation, which means there is no conscious desire to make love.

And even if this suddenly happens, the man will be convicted of pedophilia. The most common age on the planet is 16 years old; until it is reached, sex remains prohibited.

Defloration

A girl is sometimes frightened by her first experience, especially if she knows that pain and blood await her during defloration. This is not to say that the worries are in vain. After all, when you lose your virginity, a kind of film called the hymen breaks.

This is a small fold formed from the mucous membrane. It is located between the vagina and external genitalia. Its task is to cover the entrance to the vagina. The hymen does not always break because it has a hole and can simply stretch.

Defloration occurs not only during sexual intercourse, but also during excessive physical exertion. In rare cases, a girl may be born without this film. In medicine, this situation is called aplasia.

Also, after a hymen rupture, it can grow back together. This process is called atresia. Note that if a lot of time has passed after the first sexual intercourse, then the likelihood of fusion increases. Around 18-20 years of age, the hymen is most elastic, so there will be very little blood. Closer to the age of 30, it becomes rougher, and because of this, the pain is stronger and there will also be relatively a lot of blood.

If a girl is overly afraid of pain, then she can go to a doctor who will help her remove the hymen surgically in an instant.

For some men of a certain race, it is important for a woman to have defloration with blood.

Knowing this, a representative of the fair sex checks in advance for the presence of a hymen with a gynecologist and, in the event of an accidental rupture, restores it with the help of a specialist.